1 bar, 1 girl
by Suk Psycho ~ September 11th, 2008. Filed under: Girls, Go-Go Bars.This should be your rule: not more than 1 “regular” girl at a time per Gogo bar. Chose carefully and stick to her. Don’t change. At least not until you are fed up with her.
Of course this is not what I do. There are a few bars where, over the years, i’ve been with 10+ girls. They don’t like that. Most of them. They don’t say it but in some way they make you “pay” for it. Some just ignore you, some are unwilling to seat or come with you, some perform at their minimum while with you, etc.
This seemed weird to me at the beginning, because I thought that being a customer, you would be free to do whatever you want. In term of choice and rotation I mean. But then I started to understand.
First they lose some business: keeping you as an exclusive guarantee them a good line of business,
Second they lose face: one gives you a big smile or even a hug when you arrive and you end up barfining another one,
Third they lose their friends: between them, this is business, this is not a game. And they can even fight for a girl stealing the customer of the other.
Of course, in a way, we don’t care. We pay for a service. We want to be free in our choice. We also want to try all the “options” available. But yes they just don’t like it. A pretty girl from Doll House told me once that she never said “hello” to me when I arrived in the bar because she didn’t want to be the fourth or fifth girl of the bar to greet me at the same time. 
To another one from the same bar, I asked why she gave many kisses to an ugly fat old guy I saw her with in the bar, while when coming with me she was always playing shy. She answered that he was “good heart”. He always go with her and only with her.
That’s the way it is. They don’t like the butterfly, even if he is only a customer. This is a way for them to protect both their business and their reputation.
Up to you to decide whether you care or not, but be sure that there will be some consequences. Fortunately for us, the turn over is high and there is always a time when old acquaintances leave, and new girls arrive!
September 11th, 2008 at 10:41 pm
I am new to the scene but from what I have seen so far, I totally agree.
Then again, I am more the LT type who goes for a GFE.
Think about it: Why risk bar fining a dud when you already found a good girl where you know that you will be looked after well.
I also find that the more often I bar fine a particular girl, the better she looks after me. She offered me a few times “If you want to change lady, you can do it. I will understand”.
I declined and bar fined her again to take her out LT. During this time everything is relaxed and she looks after me really well. If I bar fine one of her “friends”, who knows what I will get. Repeat business with a compatible girl always pays off.
It also makes the time at the bar, in my example Baccara more relaxing because I walk in, she spots me and runs over to see if I came to see her.
I say yes, have a drink, watch the action for a bit and then we get the bill and leave. The bill with never be padded. The girl looks out for that.
I don’t have to deal with 5 other girls wanting to sit with me and do the whole “Hello dahling, me like falang. You buy me drink?” script.
If I got bored with her, I would go next door to that Shark Place or Tilac and skip Baccara for a while so she doesn’t have to lose face over me coming in the next night and leaving with someone else.
September 12th, 2008 at 12:55 am
Oh another thing that speaks for the 1 bar - 1 girl rule is that after you have been exclusively with the one girl a few times, she will drop a lot of the BS and talk a bit more openly about her life as a bar girl and the behind-the-scenes stuff that goes on at her club.
The first or second time you barfine her she wouldn’t be likely to reveal anything like that and if she sees you barfining her friends she’d be too worried that mamasan finds out from her colleagues that she’s been talking too much.
September 12th, 2008 at 3:04 pm
So for a newbie like myself the advice would be take the time to choose, rather than rush in and then get a bad rep or ruin some of the experience?
How should a newbie play it?
September 12th, 2008 at 8:01 pm
@ OldFarang: that’s right. The relationship in this case is much better.
@ Imprint: I have no pretension to tell you what to do. And it depends on what you are looking for. If, like Old Farang, you like the GFE experience, you should definitely stick to the rule. If, like me, you are looking for more different experiences, then you forget the rule. Anyway, the girl will still go with you even if not with the same enthusiasm. The advantage is that if she knows you are a butterfly she will stay a bit more distant, which prevents you from having too much (dangerous) feelings for her
September 12th, 2008 at 11:15 pm
@SukPsycho:
“(Dangerous) feelings for a bar girl” makes for a good topic to dedicate a whole new post to, don’t you think ?
The psychological confusion that comes with “dating” a bar girl is certainly something people need to look out for.
It’s easy to fall into the trap if you forget to get frequent reality checks.
September 13th, 2008 at 12:25 am
@ Old Farang: I am afraid I could even already write a book on that
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